When there are problems in a marriage it can often be difficult for couples to speak plainly to one another. Maybe one partner doesn’t want to hurt the other’s feelings. Or maybe they need to work out their thoughts before bringing up specific points. However, there is a particular audience for which spouses will not hold back: therapists. Marriage and couples therapists regularly hear uncensored accounts of what’s happening in relationships because, well, it’s their job.
Listen to Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. and Seth Gillihan, Ph.D. talk about the big ideas from her recent book, Love Between Equals: Relationship as a Spiritual Path. Polly presents an inspiring view of committed relationships—not at all an idealized view, as she acknowledges the challenges in sharing life with another person.
In her wedding vows for her second (or maybe third) marriage, my sister said, “…as long as this lasts” instead of “’til death do us part.” Was it wry and dark humor, or a pretty accurate reflection of how modern relationships play out? The American Psychological Associates notes that, in Western cultures, 90% of people marry by age 50, and 40-50% of those couples divorce. Divorce rates are even higher for subsequent marriages. Perhaps my sister’s vow reflected her own personal experience as well as an understanding of the landscape of our times.
Love can be a mystery. It can be confounding. But still we pursue it. With gusto. So on the holiday devoted to love, VPR host Jane Lindholm talks with psychologist and author Polly Young-Eisendrath about modern love, understanding how to communicate with your partner and creating a relationship of equals.
Jungian analyst, Polly Young-Eisendrath talks with Bonnie Bright, Ph.D. in conjunction with Pacifica Institute. Personal love—that is, love that we feel within—has changed in the 21st century. In this day and age, we seek three very specific outcomes in our relationships that have not always been sought in “traditional” relationships.