Why do we need another book about love?
Our newest model of love and marriage is grounded in ideals of equality and wanting to be emotionally mirrored – to be seen, heard and felt accurately. These conditions make new demands on individuals and families. And we still have serious gaps in understanding what enduring love requires. We confuse love with the biology of attachment bonds, with the excitement of romance and sexual desire, or with our desires for pleasure or affection. And yet, love is and requires more than all these. This is my fourth book about love and I had to write it because it is needed. Even with all the data we have about our biology and hormones, couples and families continue to suffer tremendously in being able to assure themselves of enduring love.