Living with Love Blog by Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D.
Bravo to Atul Gwande for writing a book about the end of life that is both a pleasure to read and chock full of vital information about what happens in our current health care system when our bodies fail us in old age or fatal illness. If we are not prepared with some kind of self-determination and perspective, we are doomed to emotional overwhelm and confusion in trying to make the best decisions about our medical options and care.
In Between the World and Me (2105), writer and journalist Ta-Nehisi Coates presents the underlying formulas of racism, power, brutality and oppression that undergird the privilege and profits of American society. Here is one such formula: “To be black in the Baltimore of my youth was to be naked before the elements of the world, before all the guns, fists, knives, crack, rape, and disease.
When adults enter into a sexual relationship, they engage and develop physical and emotional routines that are similar to a mother and infant: they hug, kiss, rock and hold each other, comfort each other with baby talk, and provide care for each other. An adult “pair bond” forms from these activities (though they are being used for genital sexuality, not for infant protection and survival). Consequently, an adult sexual relationship produces feelings of infantile or childish attachment that happen even if the relationship is abusive or psychologically toxic.