PAiR: Pay Attention in Relationships
Becoming Human Together
To be conscious, you must Pay Attention. As a human being, this is not a simple matter of being aware or alert; To be conscious you have to know that you know. You have to be aware of your awareness. Throughout life, this act of consciousness requires others or at least one other person. To be conscious is a relationship. It’s not a solo activity.
PAiR is designed to teach you how to develop your consciousness through your relationships. Everything here will teach you to humanize, not de-humanize, your interactions in order to support and care for others and yourself, as the means of expanding your awareness of your own being.
The majority of your time on Earth, you are not paying attention, or aware of your awareness, but doing and saying things unconsciously, defensively, automatically. Under those conditions, you don’t know what you know, see, hear or feel about yourself or the world. Under those conditions, you can quickly dehumanize yourself or another. Under those conditions, you react through basic emotional actions and habits, not through human consciousness.
Joining PAiR allows you to engage deeply with Polly’s teachings, writings, videos, blogs, and community – as an individual, as an individual in relationship or family, a leader in an organization, a life or executive coach, a mediator, an educator, a healer or as a couple or individual therapist.
Benefits of PAiR
live 45-minute group session with Polly meant to deepen and personalize the material
access to all content and all Polly’s online classes
one discounted one-on-one consultation with Polly (annual members only)
$55 per month or $600 per year
You Need Relationships to Know Yourself
You began your life inside another person. You needed that person for everything before you emerged as a small and helpless infant and then you continued to need that person for everything, until you could begin to become conscious of yourself – when you were about 18 months old and you began the adventure of being aware of your awareness, and learning how to become a human among humans.
There are four components to your conscious awareness:
Experience awareness of something (I “know”)
Knowing that you experienced something (“I know that I know”)
Knowing that another has also experienced this something (“I know that you know”)
Knowing that our knowledge is dependent on shared human awareness (“I know that you know that I know”)
For you to be conscious, you have to interact and be reflected by others – at all times of your life, even when you are dying. In order to develop your experiences of a “self” (individual experiences) and a “world” (shared perceptions of “something”), you especially need one or two or three others who are your “home base.”
You come into your world paired up. You will forever need to look into another’s eyes in order to find yourself.
