Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 14: Love & Hate for Self

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 14: Love & Hate for Self

 
 
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EPISODE 14: In our podcasts, we have defined “self” as an “interactional process” with others. Self becomes a habitual set of dynamics with others, connected to narratives about identity, body, family and tribe. The ways we talk to ourselves and to others about ourselves are often imbued with negativity and aversion. In this podcast, we will talk about how we can develop an attitude of love, acceptance and witnessing of ourselves, and how we lose that attitude when we talk to ourselves in ways that are fundamentally untruthful about who we are and what we are doing.

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 13: Hatred & Non-Hatred: What the Buddha Taught

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 13: Hatred & Non-Hatred: What the Buddha Taught

 
 
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EPISODE 13: What is the nature of hatred and how is it related to love? What about non-hatred, is it the same as love? Love and hate abide together in the ambivalence of close relationships. Why do we hold them as opposites? Why does hate become a recurring problem in our relationships, from the family to the larger society? In this podcast, we will explore the nature of hate as an attitude or intention – not a feeling – of indifference and animosity towards others. We will also explore the famous teaching of the Buddha that “hatred is never appeased by hatred in this world. By non-hatred alone is hatred appeased. This is an eternal law.” How can we understand this teaching?

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 12: Real Dialogue: Rules & Realities

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 12: Real Dialogue: Rules & Realities

 
 
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EPISODE 12: We all recognize Real Dialogue when we encounter it: people speak only for themselves and listen, really listen, to others. In times of conflict, opposition and emotional warfare, Real Dialogue seems impossible — but it is the only way to avoid schisms, active and passive aggression, and alienation. In this podcast we talk about the skills and insights of Real Dialogue and why it’s different from Conflict Resolution and non-violent communication. Real Dialogue requires emotional maturity, truth-telling, and the mindful ability to be in touch with your own feelings and thoughts without automatically discharging or expressing them. Real Dialogue is the only method that will always help us find the path from war to wisdom.

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 11: Speaking to Yourself & Others

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 11: Speaking to Yourself & Others

 
 
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EPISODE 11: Most of the time, we are walking around talking to ourselves in a manner that strongly affects how we feel about ourselves and others. Most of the time, we are not conscious of what we are saying, why we are saying it, and what the consequences are when we are speaking to ourselves. Our self-talk naturally flows into the ways we speak to others and so, on this podcast, we will open up some insight into self-talk and set up some constraints that can lead to greater respect and love for self and others. We will also begin to set the foundation for Real Dialogue and what’s required for people to talk through their differences.

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 10: The Difference Between Aggression & Anger

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 10: The Difference Between Aggression & Anger

 
 
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EPISODE 10: How are passive and active essentially biological and hard-wired through our mammalian brains? What does the limbic system have to do with our sense of outrage and disgust and what do these have to do with morality? Why is anger an essentially human emotion and how is it useful in conflict with respect. This podcast will set the groundwork for a human dialogue about dangerous conflict without animal reactivity to the triggers of rage.

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 9: Rejecting Humiliation, Hostility & Hate

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 9: Rejecting Humiliation, Hostility & Hate

 
 
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EPISODE 9: If we embrace an uncompromising rejection of racism, sexism or other means of demeaning or dismissing other humans as inferior, how can we proceed in relating to others with whom we have conflict of needs, status, or ideals? How can we conduct ourselves if we constrain or restrain our destructive feelings and emotions? How can we make our anger and needs known in a way that does not compromise our sense of injustice or meaning, but does not create more hostility, hatred, or humiliation? In this podcast we will talk about setting mindful retrains as the basis for open dialogue.

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 8: Love & Hate Part 2

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 8: Love & Hate Part 2

 
 
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EPISODE 8: Love & Hate Part 2. Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. and Eleanor Johnson continue the dialogue about these two great categories of human relating. What are they about and are they biological? Why is love not an emotion or feeling? Why is hate not at all like love and yet often contained within our love for others or another? What can we learn about our enemies by understanding love and hate?

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 7: Love & Hate Part 1

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 7: Love & Hate Part 1

 
 
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EPISODE 7: Love & Hate Part 1. Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. and Eleanor Johnson. What are these two great categories of human relating? What are they about and are they biological? Why is love not an emotion or feeling? Why is hate not at all like love and yet often contained within our love for others or another? What can we learn about our enemies by understanding love and hate?

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 6: Ourselves & Others

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 6: Ourselves & Others

 
 
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EPISODE 6: Ourselves & Others. Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. and Eleanor Johnson. What allows us to feel comfortable in ourselves with others? What does it mean to feel like we “belong”? Can we do this without creating an “other” and without setting up an enemy, even though we may feel envious, jealous, ashamed, or self-conscious about our situation or status? Can we move through our outrage or rage without creating more humiliation and outrage?

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 5: Emotions & Feelings Part 2

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 5: Emotions & Feelings Part 2

 
 
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EPISODE 5: Emotions & Feelings Part 2. In Part 2, Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. and Eleanor Johnson talk especially about the two great categories of human emotions — primary emotions (that we are born with) and secondary emotions that develop to allow us to compare and protect ourselves in human groups, especially our families and close others. Deep dive into envy, jealousy, gratitude, guilt and shame and the insights they bring. Nobody is free of these feelings; the formula is eternal and it’s vital to understand that EVERYONE is motivated by them.

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 4: Emotions & Feelings Part 1

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 4: Emotions & Feelings Part 1

 
 
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EPISODE 4: Human Emotions & Feelings Part 1. Human emotions are complex and widely called “feelings” when much of what we call our “feelings” are actually our opinions, our preferences, our ideals, and the stories that we repeatedly tell ourselves about what’s going within the interactive process we call “self.” In this two-part episode, Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. and Eleanor Johnson will talk about what emotions are and how the dangerous cycle of humiliation and rage can get going between individuals and groups in a way that leads to war and destruction, and prevents resolving conflicts. We will talk especially about the two great categories of human emotions — primary emotions (that we are born with) and secondary emotions that develop to allow us to compare and protect ourselves in human groups, especially our families and close others.

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 3: Conflict

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 3: Conflict

 
 
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EPISODE 3: Conflict What is the meaning of conflict? Why do the exact same conflicts often recur repeatedly and not lead to any solutions? In this episode, Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. and Eleanor Johnson will deconstruct the roots of conflict and see why conflicts are so repetitive, and why and how unity has to enter into the encounter or relationship in order for problems to resolve.

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 2: Why Enemies?

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 2: Why Enemies?

 
 
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EPISODE 2: Why Enemies? Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. and Eleanor Johnson explore their reasons for starting this podcast: the major reason is to be able to hold hope a forum and a space in which they can explore from each our own perspectives the roots of war and peace. Polly starts with the family and the unconscious tendency to “other” someone — to find someone to blame when things go wrong. Eleanor starts with the big issues left from the last century: is peace possible? what is democracy? do we have to have the massive destructive wars (of the 20th century) again?

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 1: Enemies

Enemies: From War to Wisdom Episode 1: Enemies

 
 
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EPISODE 1: Join Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. and Eleanor Johnson in their new podcast about ENEMIES. EPISODE 1: Why do we need enemies? From intimate relationships to politics, tribalism, and community, we cannot seem to stop dehumanizing each other. Are chronic conflicts in our families, societies, and nations inevitable? In this podcast, we analyze human hostilities from the most mundane to the most sophisticated as we apply psychology, psychoanalysis, art, spirituality, and relational theory in conversations about belonging and othering in our relationships and ideologies. Each program will reach for a fresh wisdom that shows us how to step back from creating enemies in our lives.