Making Love Last: Foundational Course in Dialogue Therapy

Time-Limited Couple Therapy Based on Psychoanalysis and Mindfulness
Taught by Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. & Jean Pieniadz, Ph.D.

 

This foundational course will use the following books for the training: Love Between Equals: Relationship as a Spiritual Path (2019); The Present Heart: A Memoir of Love, Loss and Discovery (2014); and The Self-Esteem Trap: Raising Confident and Compassionate Kids in an Age of Self-Importance (2009), all by Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D.

 

Eventually, a training manual for Dialogue Therapy will be added to the curriculum: Dialogue Therapy: A Time-Limited Psychotherapy for Couples Based on Psychoanalysis and Mindfulness, by Jean Pieniadz, Ph.D. and Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D.

 

Four 3.5 days trainings: #1 Introduction; #2 Co-therapist Model of Dialogue Therapy; #3 Solo therapist Model; #4 Review of Diagnostic and Clinical Principles

 

84 CE Hours

DOWNLOAD THIS INFORMATION

Institute for Dialogue Therapy Home


Training #1: Introduction

Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D.


Day One (half-day, afternoon)

Didactic

  • What is Dialogue Therapy?
  • What is couple therapy?
  • Reviewing the two models: co-therapist and solo
  • Pitfalls and short-comings of contemporary couple therapy models
  • Ideals of equality: Idealization/splitting: Love’s # 1 enemy
  • The nature of “personal love”

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (see/hear/feel)
  • Dyadic exercises: What is love? How do I want to be loved?

Day Two

Didactic

  • Challenges of equality, reciprocity, mutuality
  • Enemy-making factors in personal love
  • From disillusionment to intimacy: Witnessing and Minding the Gap
  • How personal love differs from pair-bonding, romance, idealization or desire
  • True love as a spiritual path
  • True love: Love on a two-way street
  • Cherishing: Love on a one-way street
  • Witnessing: Whole self to whole self
  • Methods and theories: Psychoanalysis, psychodrama, mindfulness
  • Psychodrama technique: Alter ego or doubling
  • Psychodrama technique: Role reversal

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (concentration, equanimity, clarity of perception)
  • Doubling exercises

Day Three

Didactic

  • Evaluation of couple: Co-therapist Model
  • Video demonstration
  • Six Questions
  • Empathy Interview for Relational History
  • How to do the Relational History
  • Managing the time limits

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (see/hear/feel)
  • Learning to do the Empathy Interview with a partner
  • Using the Six Questions

Day Four

Didactic

  • Dialogue: Speaking for yourself, paraphrasing, responding, being curious, expanding the story
  • Working on a conflict (Session One: Dialogue Therapy)
  • Video demonstration
  • Coaching and Alter Ego
  • Projective identification in couples and in therapy
  • Wrap-up

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (concentration, equanimity, clarity of perception)
  • Alter Ego practice (two dyads, working together)
  • Feedback and processing of weekend

Training #2: Co-Therapist Model

Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph. D., and Jean Pieniadz, Ph. D.


Day One (half-day, afternoon)

Didactic

  • Review of co-therapist process in the 7 sessions (review of each session)
  • Note-taking and use of notes for “Map of Projective Identification”
  • Review of Coaching and Alter Ego
  • Projective identification in equal and reciprocal relationship: review
  • Separation anxiety, pornography, open relationships, identification in pair-bonding
  • Active and passive aggression versus anger
  • Co-therapists as role models for communication in doubling

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (see/hear/feel)
  • Co-therapist practice of doubling and empathy interview

Day Two

Didactic

  • Finding and working with a co-therapist in Dialogue Therapy
  • Contra-indications for Dialogue Therapy
  • Best practices of Dialogue Therapy
  • Why Dialogue Therapy works: differentiation as path to intimacy
  • Working Through a Conflict: video
  • Differences between therapists in Coaching and Alter Ego
  • Reflecting team
  • Empathy interview breakouts (when therapist switches chair with partner)
  • Keeping no secrets
  • Wrap-up

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (concentration, equanimity, clarity of perception)
  • Alter ego and reflecting team practice

Day Three

Didactic

  • Psychodrama technique of Role Reversal
  • Role Reversal: video
  • Paraphrasing and stepping into someone else’s shoes: developmental issues
  • Empathy, sympathy, pity
  • Self-conscious emotions

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (see/hear/feel)
  • Practicing Role Reversal and Wrap-Up

Day Four

Didactic

  • Comparing Dialogue Therapy with EFT, Imago Therapy and Gottman Method
  • Clinical discussions about the videotaped couple and decisions made by the co-therapists

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (concentration, equanimity, clarity of perception)
  • Practicing in co-therapist teams: Evaluation and Working through a Conflict
  • Feedback and processing of weekend

Training #3: Solo-therapist Model

Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. 


Day One (half-day, afternoon)

Didactic

  • Solo-therapist Model: 13 sessions, how it works
  • Therapeutic set-up and note-taking
  • Advantages and disadvantages of the two models
  • Demonstration of evaluation with solo therapist, using couple in group (either role play or real couple)
  • Discussion of evaluation with couple in solo model
  • Length of evaluation (should be limited to 3 hours, but often takes longer, depending on age of partners)

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (see/hear/feel)
  • Evaluation session with “couple”

Day Two

Didactic

  • Clinical issues in solo evaluation of couple (debriefing with live demo couple)
  • Clinical issues of projective identification in solo Working through a Conflict
  • Demonstration of Working through a Conflict using demo couple

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (concentration, equanimity, clarity of perception)
  • Working through a Conflict, using a couple in the group
  • Having participants step into the roles of Alter Ego and Coach with couple

Day Three

Didactic

  • Differences between Dialogue Therapy (solo therapist) and other methods of couple therapy
  • Projective identification in solo therapist model: use of breakout empathy interviews
  • Second Session of Dialogue Therapy: Working Through a Conflict II (demonstration)
  • Clinical issues in second session of Dialogue Therapy
  • Clinical issues in third session of Dialogue Therapy

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (see/hear/feel)
  • Practicing alter ego, coaching and wrap-up

Day Four

Didactic

  • Role Reversal in solo model
  • Role Reversal session with demo couple
  • Debriefing role reversal
  • Different kinds of couples and empathy issues: hetero, same-sexed, trans, other differences

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (concentration, equanimity, clarity of perception)
  • Practicing role reversal and wrap-up
  • Feedback and processing of weekend

Training #4: Review of Clinical and Diagnostic Principles

Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. & Jean Pieniadz, Ph.D.


Day One (half-day, afternoon)

Didactic

  • What is psychological development?
  • What is spiritual development?
  • How do individuals develop within a couple?
  • Jung’s psychological complex
  • Klein’s projective identification
  • Affective unconscious communication in couples (the problem of contempt)
  • Dialogue Therapy as individuation for partners
  • How does meditation help partners develop in couple relationship?
  • What are the limits of meditation for helping partners in couple relationship?
  • How does meditation harm couple relationship?
  • When do we refer for individual psychotherapy?
  • Should you tell a couple “You should separate”? Different approaches
  • How do you learn and develop as a Dialogue Therapist – in your own relationships, in your co-therapy relationship?

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (concentration, equanimity, clarity of perception)
  • Dyadic exercises

Day Two

Didactic

  • How do we use the evaluation of partners diagnostically to know whether or not a couple will benefit from Dialogue Therapy?
  • How do you look for the patterns of projective identification in your evaluation process?
  • Participants’ videos of Dialogue Therapy evaluation
  • Discussion of videos

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (see/hear/feel)
  • Evaluation practice in dyads – Empathy Interview, Relational History

Day Three

Didactic

  • Participants’ videos of First Session: Working Through a Conflict
  • Discussion of videos
  • Questions and concerns about Doubling and Coaching
  • Questions and concerns about Dialogue
  • Defenses: adaptive and maladaptive
  • Empathy
  • Participants’ videos of Role Reversal
  • Discussion of videos

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (see/hear/feel)
  • Doubling, Coaching and Dialogue practices

Day Four

Didactic

  • The follow-up of Dialogue Therapy Sessions (after the 6 months interval)
  • Diagnostics in the Follow-up: How do you evaluate the couple?
  • Questions about Dialogue Therapy
  • Questions about advanced training
  • Additional participants’ videos

Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice: (concentration, equanimity, clarity of perception)
  • Feedback and processing of training
  • Talking Circle