Foundational Training in Dialogue Therapy in Four Sessions

Taught by Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D.
with Sarah Brodie, MA, RP
Chicago/Midwest Sessions of Dialogue Therapy Training
Within Holistic Counseling
800 Roosevelt Road • Building A, Suite 111
Glen Ellyn, IL 60137

 Session 1: November 7 - 10, 2019
Session 2: February 13 - 16, 2020
Session 3: April 2 - 5, 2020
Session 4: May 14 - 17, 2020
90 Continuing Education Credits

Registration:
$700 per session/$2800 total
Registrants are encouraged to attend all four sessions.

Course Description: Foundational Training in Dialogue Therapy

Intimate partnerships in the 21st century—with unique demands for equality, reciprocity and accurate emotional witnessing—require skills and knowledge that go beyond a secure attachment bond and “better communication.” As couples move from romance into disillusionment and power struggle, they must remain open to using mindful inquiry and self-reflection, even in the midst of destructive impulses and emotional activation. The requirements for negotiating differences of desires, style, and preferences in an atmosphere of reciprocity and equity far exceed what popular psychologies of love prescribe for an enduring intimate relationship.

Dialogue Therapy is a time-limited, short term couple therapy that may be done by co-therapists or a single therapist. Drawing on psychoanalysis, mindfulness, and techniques of psychodrama, Dialogue Therapy is designed to address emotional entanglement, active and passive aggression, and hostile and destructive by-products of unconscious affective communication (e.g., projective identification). The goal of Dialogue Therapy is increased differentiation and intimacy between partners who suffer from repetitive, unresolved conflicts and emotional alienation. Dialogue Therapy utilizes techniques that train couples to engage in dialogue, self-regulation, and empathy. Dialogue Therapy helps couples to gain insight into and then change their troubling, repetitive emotional patterns and harmful destructive enactments, especially related to eliminating the cycle of humiliation/rage that undermines trust and eventually makes problem-solving impossible.

The Foundational Training in Dialogue Therapy provides participants with a comprehensive approach to working with couples that integrates empirically supported principles of therapeutic change (Castonquay & Beutler, 2006) and specific methods derived from relational psychoanalytic couple therapy, mindfulness-based psychotherapy, and psychodrama. This integrative treatment approach is grounded in research and scholarship in the fields of psychodynamic psychotherapy (Ringstrom, 2014; Shedler, 2010; Siegel, 2015; Young-Eisendrath,1993; Young-Eisendrath, in press), mindfulness-based psychotherapy (Davis & Hayes, 2011; Laurent, Hertz, Nelson & Laurent, 2016), and psychodrama (Jennings & Holmwood, 2016). It also directly integrates research on implicit bias (Banaji & Greenwald, 2016). All of the lines of research that Dialogue Therapy draws on have significant evidence base.

The Foundational Training in Dialogue Therapy will introduce participants to the history, theory and method of Dialogue Therapy. Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. the originator of Dialogue Therapy (and the author of three books about it; 1984, 1993 and 2019) will be joined by her co-therapist, Sarah Brodie, MA, RP for portions of the training that involve teaching and demonstrating the co-therapist model of treatment.

The four-part training will include a full explanation of the theoretical underpinnings of the approach and a session-by-session description of the methods employed in Dialogue Therapy treatment, along with detailed considerations of assessment and evaluation of a couples’ appropriateness for treatment, including the limitations and potential risks of this approach. The training is augmented by video demonstration illustrating aspects of the treatment, live demonstration, dyadic and mindfulness exercises, and opportunities for Q&A.

Session 1: Introduction and Overview of Dialogue Therapy is an overview that sets the conceptual framework and rationale of this method.

Session 2: The Co-Therapist Model provides an overview of the original co-therapist model of Dialogue Therapy with live demonstrations of key components of the initial stages of therapy.

Session 3: The Solo Therapist Model introduces the solo model and its methods and provides an opportunity for participants to begin to practice and to work with each other in developing their knowledge and skills.

Session 4: Review and Demonstrations of Clinical Diagnostic Principles of Dialogue Therapy provides further opportunity to apply the methods and skills and to practice the techniques of doubling, coaching, and role reversal interviews.

Participants are required to read Love Between Equals: Relationship as a Spiritual Path the 2019 by Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D.


Certification and Continuing Education Credit

90 Continuing Education Credits are co-sponsored by the Illinois Mental Health Counselors Association (IMHCA) for the following professions: Psychologists, Licensed Professional Counselors/Licensed Mental Health Counselors, Social Workers and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapists, however, the program is open to anyone who wants to learn the methods and skills of Real Dialogue for their own improvement and development. It is the participant's responsibility to check with their individual state boards to verify CE requirements for their state.

The completion of the four session program, combined with two hours of supervision by a Certified Dialogue Therapist, leads to certification as a Dialogue Therapist.

Attendees who are not mental health professionals will receive a “Completion of Training” document that verifies the hours they have trained in the skills of “Real Dialogue Specialist” who can use Real Dialogue as a communication skill and method, but not in any therapeutic endeavor.

Foundational Training in Dialogue Therapy is appropriate for beginning and intermediate level practitioners.


Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D.

Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D., is a Jungian analyst, psychologist, and psychotherapist in private practice. She is the Clinical Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Vermont and the founder and director of the Institute for Dialogue Therapy. She is past president of the Vermont Association for Psychoanalytic Studies and a founding member of the Vermont Institute for the Psychotherapies. Polly is also the chairperson of Enlightening Conversations, a series of conversational conferences which bring together participants from the front lines of Buddhism and psychoanalysis. Polly has published sixteen books, as well as many chapters and articles that have been translated into more than twenty languages, including The Self-Esteem Trap: Raising Confident and Compassionate Kids in an Age of Self-Importance and Love Between Equals: Relationship as a Spiritual Path.


SARAH BRODIE, MA, RP

Sarah Brodie, MA, is a psychotherapist with a specialty in art therapy, child psychoanalysis (Dipl. CICAPP), and Dialogue Therapy for parents in Burlington, Ontario, Canada. Sarah is the Associate Clinical Director of the Institute for Dialogue Therapy.


Program Fees, Deadlines and Cancellation Policy:

$2800 total/$700 per session
Registrants are encouraged to attend all four sessions.


Cancellation Policy:

  • The Institute for Dialogue Therapy will charge an administration fee of $150 for cancellations made before September 7, 2019

  • The fee for cancellations made between five and eight weeks of the beginning of the program is $250

  • The fee for cancellations made between three and five weeks is $350

  • The fee for cancellations made between two and three weeks is $450

  • Less than 2 week or no notice: Loss of deposit


Grievance Policy:

The Institute for Dialogue Therapy seeks to ensure equitable treatment of every person and to make every attempt to resolve grievances in a fair manner. Please submit a written grievance to Paula Emery at paula@young-eisendrath.com or 601-506-9966. Grievances would receive, to the best of our ability, corrective action in order to prevent further problems.

Accommodations for the Differently Abled

The facilities are handicap accessible. Individuals needing special accommodations, please contact Paula Emery at: paula@young-eisendrath.com.


Session 1: Introduction and Overview of Dialogue Therapy

Taught by Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D.

Course Description: Session One will provide a theoretical overview of Dialogue Therapy. Participants will be introduced to the distinctive features of this method and how it differs from other approaches to couple therapy. Participants will also be introduced to a new framework for thinking about love and will examine the relationship between psychological differentiation and intimacy. The structure of the therapy and rationale for specific ideas and methods drawn from psychoanalysis, psychodrama therapy, and mindfulness will be introduced. The didactic sessions will involve lecture, power point, video demonstration and Q&A. Experiential sessions will involve dyadic exercises and mindfulness practice.

At the end of this session, you will be able to:

  1. Describe the basic intent and distinctive features of Dialogue Therapy.

  2. Describe the basic structure of sessions in the co-therapist and solo therapist models.

  3. Assess the major differences between Dialogue Therapy and other forms of couple therapy, such as Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Gottman model.

  4. Evaluate the benefits and drawbacks of focusing the therapy on the dynamics of the couple relationship (as in Emotionally Focused Therapy) instead of focusing on the conscious and unconscious communication of partners with each other.

  5. Assess the difference between “true love” and “cherishing.”

  6. Describe the change in the couple relationship (the aim of the therapy) in terms of “increased differentiation” as it leads to “increased intimacy.”

  7. Demonstrate an understanding of the contraindications for Dialogue Therapy as assessed through the Evaluation.

  8. Explain the rationale and use of psychodrama techniques of doubling, or alter ego, and role reversal.

  9. Describe the meaning of and skills of Mindfulness (concentration, equanimity and clarity of perception) in relation to clients’ capacity to use effective dialogue when emotionally activated.

  10. Explain and demonstrate the three skills of dialogue (Speaking for Yourself, Paraphrasing, Responding).

  11. Identify and describe the differences between idealization and love in close relationships.

  12. Explain the important distinctions between idealization, romance, love and desire in terms of couple relating.


Day One 

Evening only4:00-7:00PM
Overview of Couple Therapy and Dialogue Therapy
 

Afternoon/Evening Session – 4:00-6:00PM

Didactic: Introduction

  • What is Dialogue Therapy?

  • What is couple therapy?

  • Reviewing the two models: co-therapist and solo

  • Pitfalls and short-comings of contemporary couple therapy models

  • Ideals of equality in the 21st century

  • The nature of “personal love”

Experiential – 6:00-7:00PM

  • Mindfulness practice (see/hear/feel)

  • Dyadic exercises

Day Two

Full Day – 9:00AM-5:30PM 

Introduction to Theory and Methods of Dialogue Therapy
The Meaning of Love and Witnessing 

Morning Session – 9:00AM–12:30PM (with a 15 minute break) 

Didactic: Introduction to Theory and Methods of Dialogue 

  • Challenges of equality, reciprocity, mutuality in personal love

  • Enemy-making factors in personal love (projection/projective identification)

  • From disillusionment to intimacy: Witnessing and Minding the Gap

  • How personal love differs from pair-bonding, romance, idealization or desire

Lunch – 12:30-2:00PM

Afternoon Session – 2:00-5:30PM

Didactic: Meaning of Love and Witnessing

  • Development of personal love into true love

  • True love: Love on a two-way street

  • Cherishing: Love on a one-way street

  • Witnessing: Whole self to Whole self

  • Methods and theories: Psychoanalysis, psychodrama, mindfulness

  • Psychodrama technique: Alter ego or doubling

  • Psychodrama technique: Role reversal

Experiential: 4:00-5:30PM

  • Mindfulness Skills Practice: Concentration, Equanimity and Clarity of Perception

Day Three

Full Day 9:00AM – 5:30PM 

Demonstration of Evaluation Session – Method and Video
Completing the Evaluation – Empathy and History

Morning Session – 9:00AM-12:30PM (with a 15 minute break)

Didactic: Demonstration of Evaluation Session – Method and Video

  • Evaluation of couple: Co-therapist Model

  • Video demonstration

  • Six Questions

Lunch: 12:30PM-2:00PM

Afternoon Session – 2:00PM–5:30PM (with 15 minute break)

Didactic: Completing the Evaluation – Empathy and History

  • Empathy Interview for Relational History

  • How to do the Relational History

  • Managing the time limits

Experiential: 4:00PM-5:30PM

  • Mindfulness practice (see/hear/feel)

  • Learning to do the Empathy Interview with a partner

  • Using the Six Questions

Day Four

Full Day 9:00AM–5:30PM

Skills of Dialogue and Video Demonstration of Working on a Conflict
Methods of Coaching and Alter Ego in Relation to Chronic Projective Identification

Morning Session: 9:00AM-12:30PM (with a 15 minute break) 

Didactic: Skills of Dialogue and Video Demonstration of Working on a Conflict

  • Dialogue: Speaking for yourself, paraphrasing, responding, being curious, expanding the story

  • Working on a conflict (Session One: Dialogue Therapy)

  • Video demonstration

Lunch: 12:30-2:00PM

Afternoon Session: 2:00-5:30PM (with a 15 minute break) 

Didactic: Methods of Coaching and Alter Ego in Relation to Chronic Projective Identification

  • Coaching and Alter Ego as Analysis and Interpretation

  • Projective identification in relationships and in therapy

  • Wrap-up

Experiential: 4:00-5:30PM

  • Mindfulness practice (concentration, equanimity, clarity of perception)

  • Alter Ego practice (two dyads, working together)

  • Feedback and processing of weekend


Session 2: Co-Therapist Model

Taught by Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. and Sarah Brodie, MA, RP

Course Description: The main objective of Session Two is to provide a comprehensive overview of the co-therapist model of Dialogue Therapy. This original model, developed by Dr. Young-Eisendrath and Ed Epstein, was introduced to a clinical audience in 1984 and then developed over the next two decades. This session will be taught by Polly Young-Eisendrath and Sarah Brodie. The clinical demonstration video, “Introduction to Dialogue Therapy” will be used in interaction with teaching and experiential exercises. The co-therapist teachers will review the model, do live demonstrations of the “Evaluation” and “Working Through a Conflict,” and will discuss the strengths and weaknesses of the co-therapist model of Dialogue Therapy. This session will also introduce the “Building Empathy for Your Partner-Role Reversal” session through the demonstration video. The course is relevant to anyone who wants to practice Dialogue Therapy, whether or not you want to use the co-therapist approach.

At the end of this session, you will be able to:

  1. Analyze the advantages and disadvantages of the co-therapist set-up for Dialogue Therapy.

  2. Describe the set-up in the room and the interaction between co-therapists.

  3. Articulate the multiple strands of psychoanalytic research on relational concerns such as projective-identification and separation anxiety.

  4. Analyze projective-identification as it is communicated in the demonstration couple on video and live.

  5. Recognize and analyze the effects of passive and active aggression in the couple in the demonstration video.

  6. Describe and explain the components of the empathy interview as they occur in the co-therapy model (e.g. set-up, handling of interviews with each partner, note-taking, and reflecting team).

  7. Describe and explain the uses of Unblocking (when therapist switches chairs with the partner) through empathy interviews during the course of Working Through a Conflict.

  8. Describe and analyze issues of time management and therapeutic intervention in the co-therapist model (e.g. managing the Evaluation).

  9. Recognize and analyze the “repetition compulsions” as seen on the demonstration video and in other couples in therapy.

  10. Demonstrate understanding of the use of anger, not aggression (neither active nor passive aggression), in solving problems through respectful conflict.

  11. Discuss implications of attachment style research in relation to differentiation and intimacy.

  12. Describe the distinctive features of differentiation of individual affective meaning as a method of increasing intimacy in couple relationship.


Day One 

Evening only4:00-7:00PM
Charting the Co-Therapist Model: Strengths and Weaknesses

Afternoon/Evening Session – 4:00-7:00PM

4:00–6:00PM: Didactic: Charting the Co-Therapist Model – Strengths and Weaknesses 

  • Overview (Review) of “Love Between Equals” (PowerPoint) and Seven Sessions of Dialogue Therapy (co-therapist model, handout and PowerPoint)

  • Note-taking and use of notes with co-therapist in Evaluation, DT sessions, and de-briefing

  • Advantages and disadvantages of having a co-therapist

  • Rules of Conduct: when you are watching a live demonstration, please remain quiet, reflective, and respectful of the couple and therapists; do not call out or express any obvious reactions to what you are witnessing; when you speak about the live demonstration during a break or after the session, do so as though you were speaking of any clinical material – with deepest respect and confidentiality (e.g. do not speak about the demonstration, with identifiers, to those who are not in the training)

6:00 – 7:00PM - Experiential

  • Mindfulness practice (see/hear/feel)

  • Dyadic exercises

Day Two

Full Day – 9:00AM-5:30PM 

Co-Therapists Working Together
Co-Therapists “Live Demo: Evaluation Session” 

Morning Session – 9:00AM–12:30PM (with a 15 minute break) 

Didactic: Co-Therapists Working Together in the Evaluation

  • Live Demo of Co-therapist Model of Evaluation Session

Lunch: 12:30 – 2:00PM

Afternoon Session: 2:00–4:00PM (with a 15-minute break) 

Didactic: Co-Therapists and Couple De-briefing; Evaluation Session

  • Debriefing of Live Demo

  • Review of all positions and interactions of therapists - reflecting team, note-taking, Wrap Up etc.

  • Review of unconscious communication (how do therapists pick up on it)

  • Repetition compulsions or complexes in couple interactions (evaluation)

  • Anger versus active or passive aggression

  • Comparison/contrast of Live Demo and video demonstration of Evaluation: what did you observe?

Experiential: 4:00–5:30PM

  • Mindfulness practice (concentration, equanimity, clarity of perception)

  • Six Questions: exploring in dyads

Day Three

Full Day 9:00AM – 5:30PM 

Co-Therapists Working Together
Co-Therapists “Working Through a Conflict”

Morning Session – 9:00AM-12:30PM (with a 15 minute break)

Didactic: Co-Therapists Working Together

  • Choosing your co-therapist in the training/in your practice

  • Review of alter-ego and coaching with co-therapists

  • Review of projective identification in couples and how the co-therapist team handles it

  • Co-therapists as role models for communication of anger, not aggression and differentiation, not merging

  • Working Through a Conflict with co-therapists

Lunch: 12:30–2:00PM

Afternoon Session: 2:00–4:00PM (with a 15-minute break) 

Didactic: Live Demo of Co-therapists “Working Through a Conflict”

  • Practicing Dialogue Therapy in the first session of Working Through a Conflict

  • Coaching and Alter Ego

  • Reflecting team

  • Unblocking (when therapist switches chair with partner)

  • Keeping no secrets

  • Wrap-up

Afternoon Session 4:00–5:30PM 

Co-Therapists in Role Reversal/Empathy Building
Developmental Issues for Couples (Working with Role Reversal)

Didactic: Co-Therapists in Role Reversal (video)

  • Paraphrasing and stepping into someone else’s shoes: developmental issues

  • Empathy, sympathy, pity

  • Self-conscious emotions

  • Debriefing, understanding and analyzing the process of Evaluation with live dyad

  • Review of all co-therapist methods and techniques in Evaluation and Working Through a Conflict

Day Four

Full Day 9:00AM–5:30PM

Dialogue Therapy and Other Models of Couple Therapy
Problems and Benefits of Co-Therapist Model

Morning Session: 9:00AM-12:30PM (with a 15 minute break) 

Didactic: Dialogue Therapy and Other Models of Couple Therapy

  • Comparing Dialogue Therapy with Emotionally Focused Therapy, Imago Therapy and the Gottman Method

  • Interpretation and analysis of co-therapist model of Dialogue Therapy

Lunch: 12:30–2:00PM

Afternoon Session: 2:00–4:00PM (with a 15-minute break) 

Didactic: Problems and Benefits of Co-therapist Model

  • De-briefing your sessions

  • Working with your own partner as co-therapist

  • Choosing a partner to work with and why

  • Wrap-up with co-therapist

  • Scheduling and payment

  • Learning and development with your co-therapist

  • Clinical discussion of differences and decisions as seen with the co-therapists and on video

  • Other therapeutic issues with co-therapist

Experiential: 4:00–5:30PM

  • Mindfulness practice (concentration, equanimity, clarity of perception)

  • Practicing in co-therapist teams: Evaluation, Role Reversal or Alter Ego and Coaching

  • Feedback and processing of weekend


Session 3: The Solo Therapist Model

Taught by Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D.

Course Description: Focusing on the details of the solo therapist method of Dialogue Therapy, this session examines the advantages and disadvantages of the solo model and provides an overview and review of the Evaluation Session and Working Through a Conflict using live demonstrations and PowerPoint. Working with two demonstration couples, we will engage with each aspect of the Evaluation and Working Through a Conflict sessions. These will be handled in the format of Solo Therapist. There will be a special focus on alter ego (doubling), coaching and unblocking in the therapy process.

At the end of this session, you will be able to:

  1. Describe the structure and function of each session in the 13-14 session treatment in the solo model.

  2. Discuss the core components of the Evaluation (set up, introduction, Six Questions Exercise, and Empathy Interview) with special considerations for conducting the Evaluation in the solo model. 

  3. Create an optimal setting for effective couples work in the physical set up and create ground rules for the Evaluation Session and subsequent sessions. 

  4. Discuss the scope and parameters of the end of the Evaluation Session wrap up.

  5. Evaluate the role of the Empathy Interview in the Evaluation process through a clinical demonstration.

  6. Identify projective identification in the Evaluation Session of a live demonstration interview and predict how the dynamic will play out in subsequent sessions.

  7. Demonstrate the core competencies of Rephrasing and Coaching while working as an alter ego.

  8. Articulate the connection between Doubling and objective empathy.

  9. Identify when to initiate an Unblocking technique based on the couples’ communication while working on a conflict.

  10. Demonstrate Doubling as a method of offering language to implied meaning in couple communication.

  11. Practice strategies for establishing equanimity in the face of couple distress.

  12. Describe the role of the therapist’s personal mindfulness practice in conducting Dialogue Therapy.

  13. Explain the role of supervision in the solo model and participate in live consultation.


Day One 

Evening only4:00-7:00PM
Overview of the Solo Therapy Model of Dialogue Therapy
 

Afternoon/Evening Session – 4:00-7:00PM (with 15 minute break)

Didactic: Overview

  • Solo model: 13 -14 sessions: how it works

  • Therapeutic setup and note-taking

  • Advantages and disadvantages of solo

  • Issues about Evaluation (how many sessions and how to schedule) in solo model

Experiential – 6:00 – 7:00PM

  • Mindfulness practice of see/hear/feel

  • Practicing the Six Questions and opening of Evaluation in single therapy model

Day Two

Full Day – 9:00AM-5:30PM 

Live Evaluation Session Demonstration and Discussion 

Morning Session – 9:00AM–12:30PM (with a 15 minute break) 

Didactic: First Evaluation Session with Live Demo Couples  

  • Clinical issues of handling projective identification in opening sequence of Evaluation

  • First Evaluation Session with Live Demo (two hours)

  • Debriefing

Lunch: 12:30–2:00PM

Afternoon Session: 2:00–4:30PM (with a 15-minute break) 

Didactic: Second Evaluations Session with Live Demo Couples

  • First Evaluation Session with Live Demo (two hours)

  • Debriefing

  • Second Evaluation Session with Live Demo (one hour)

  • Debriefing

Experiential: 4:30—5:30PM

  • Practicing Evaluation Session as solo model with dyads observing and giving feedback

Day Three

Full Day 9:00AM – 5:30PM 

Working Through a Conflict Live Demo with Coaching

Morning Session: 9:00AM– 2:30PM (with a 15-minute break)

Didactic: Working through a Conflict Demonstration

  • Second Evaluation Session with Live Demo (one hour)

  • Debriefing

  • Working Through a Conflict with Live Demo (one hour)

  • Debriefing

Lunch: 12:30–2:00PM

Afternoon Session: 2:00–4:00PM (with a 15-minute break) 

Didactic: Live Practice with Coaching

  • Live Demo with participants coming up to work in the therapist seat with coaching from Polly  

  • Working Through a Conflict (second session) with Live Demo

Experiential: 4:00– 5:30PM

  • Dyads working together in practicing the skills of solo Dialogue Therapy

Day Four

Full Day 9:00AM–5:30PM

Live Demo with Coaching

Morning Session: 9:00AM-12:30PM (with a 15 minute break) 

Didactic: Live Practice with Coaching

  • Reviewing the components of Dialogue and the role of therapist in coaching and doubling

  • Working Through a Conflict with Live Demo (one hour) 

  • Debriefing

  • Continue Live Demo in Working Through a Conflict (second session) with participants  coming up to sit in the therapist seat, Polly coaching

  • Debriefing and discussion of techniques and content

Lunch: 12:30–2:00PM

Afternoon Session: 2:00–5:30PM (with a 15-minute break)

Didactic and Experiential: 

  • Sharing of videos and/or other accounts of participants’ work using Dialogue Therapy in Evaluation and Working Through a Conflict.


Session 4: Review and Demonstrations of Clinical and Diagnostic Principles of Dialogue Therapy

Taught by Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. and Sarah Brodie, MA, RP

Course Description: In this final session of Dialogue Therapy Training, we will review the psychological and spiritual developmental principles of Dialogue Therapy. This program will address the application of methods and techniques to complex issues that arise in couple work (e.g. what to do about infidelity, individual psychopathology, when couples should separate, and other issues). Participants will observe a live clinical demonstration focusing on a session of Role Reversal. This final training will provide opportunities to deepen skills through presentations by participants of their own practice in Dialogue Therapy, with feedback and consultation from the instructors.

At the end of this session, you will be able to:

  1. Summarize the meaning of psychological and spiritual development in Dialogue Therapy

  2. Describe the process of relational individuation as the necessary precondition for true love; specifically, define the role of the Three C’s: Commitment, Containment, and Constraint in true love.

  3. Instruct couples in the three skills needed to establish Real Dialogue.

  4. Explain how the mindset established through Dialogue Therapy becomes part of the ongoing couple development at the conclusion of therapy.

  5. Demonstrate competency in the therapeutic methods of doubling, coaching, inquiry, and unblocking in practice sessions. 

  6. Consider the clinical implications of the pacing, intensity, and repetition of interventions in the ongoing evaluation of the progress of the treatment. 

  7. Participate in and evaluate Live Demo session utilizing expert feedback.

  8. Employ strategies for addressing difficult couple issues such as infidelity, individual psychopathology, and violence.

  9. Recognize when couples should separate and other contraindications for Dialogue Therapy.

  10. Identify pitfalls couples experience in applying Dialogue Therapy methods outside the consulting room and strategies for addressing these problems.

  11. Determine when to extend the time limits of Dialogue Therapy to address specific clinical issues.

  12. Define five psychological principles to convey to couples in order to help them achieve and maintain Real Dialogue post-termination.

  13. Identify what to look for in the follow-up session to confirm therapy has been successful.


Day One 

Evening only4:00-7:00PM
From Personal Love to True Love

Afternoon/Evening Session – 4:00-7:00PM

Didactic: Overview of  Psychological Development from Personal Love into True Love

  • What do we mean by “psychological development” in DT?

  • What do we mean by “spiritual development”?

  • DT as individuation in partners

  • True love and the individuation process

  • How is mindfulness a part of ongoing couple development after the end of DT?

Experiential: 6:00 – 7:00PM

  • See/hear/feel

  • Working in dyads on skills

Day Two

Full Day – 9:00AM-5:30PM 

Live Demo: Role Reversal 

Morning Session – 9:00AM–12:30PM (with a 15 minute break) 

Didactic: Role Reversal 

  • Live Demo of Role Reversal (co-therapist model) 

  • Debriefing

Lunch: 12:30–2:00PM

Afternoon Session: 2:00–5:30PM (with a 15-minute break)

Didactic: Presentations

  • Presentations by participants of their own practice in Dialogue Therapy

  • Discussion and debriefing of presentations

Experiential 4:30 – 5:30PM

  • See/hear/feel

  • Dyadic meditation

Day Three

Full Day 9:00AM – 5:30PM 

Clinical Issues and Presentations

Morning Session – 9:00AM-12:30PM (with a 15 minute break)

Didactic: Presentations

  • Presentations by participants of their own practice in Dialogue Therapy

  • Discussion and debriefing of presentations

Lunch: 12:30–2:00PM

Afternoon Session: 2:00–4:00PM (with a 15-minute break) 

Didactic: Clinical Issues in Dialogue Therapy 

  • Empathy and development in couple relationship

  • Commitment, Constraint and Containment

  • Defenses

  • Questions about how to work with limits, separation, violence etc.

    Experiential: 4:00–5:30PM

  • See/hear/feel

  • Practicing Dialogue within dyads

Day Four

Full Day 9:00AM–5:30PM

Follow-up Session and Termination Issues in Dialogue Therapy

Morning Session: 9:00AM-12:30PM (with a 15 minute break) 

Didactic: The Wrap up Session and The Follow-up Session

  • What happens in the Wrap-Up before the sixth month break?

  • What happens in the Follow-up and the Wrap-Up after the break?

  • When and why should you add sessions of DT?

  • Diagnostics in the follow-up: What are you looking for?

Lunch: 12:30–2:00PM

Afternoon Session: 2:00–4:00PM (with a 15-minute break) 

Afternoon Didactic: 2:00—4:30PM (with break)

  • Remaining clinical issues

  • Feedback and processing of the training

  • Questions about Advanced Training in DT

  • Integrating Dialogue Therapy into your practice

  • Requirements for Certification in Dialogue Therapy

  • Closing Circle and Evaluations