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The following are the speaking events and readings by Polly Young-Eisendrath. If you are interested in booking her for an event, click here.

September 27 – 30, 2018

Foundational Skills in Dialogue Therapy/Session 1

Vermont Center for integrative Therapy
75 San Remo Drive, Suite 204
South Burlington, VT 05403
802-658-9440

September 27 – 30, 2018

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October 18 – 19, 2018

Love Between Equals: Relationship as a Spiritual Path

Summit for Clinical Excellence
Atlanta, GA

October 18 – 19, 2018

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November 29 – December 2, 2018

Foundational Skills in Dialogue Therapy/Session 2

Vermont Center for integrative Therapy
75 San Remo Drive, Suite 204
South Burlington, VT 05403
802-658-9440

November 29 – December 2, 2018

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February 15 – 18, 2019

Befriending the Enemy: Liberating Yourself from Shadow Projections

The Rowe Center
22 Kings Highway, PO Box 273
Rowe, MA 01367

February 15 – 18, 2019
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In difficult times, and in challenging relationships, do you label others as the enemy? Join Polly to discover how to work with your shadow energies and projections.

How is it going in your family? Are you relating to and speaking with all of the people you love? Are you able to solve problems and conflicts with your partner and adult children? If it’s hard for you to avoid blaming someone, if you disavow your own aggressive motives and project them onto others — you’re not alone. Everybody does this. It’s possible, though, to free yourself from projecting your shadow (the unconscious parts of yourself that you repress) onto those you perceive as enemies. Drawing on Jungian theory and other models, Polly will facilitate mindfulness exercises about identity, belonging, and “othering” as well as conversations about family patterns rooted in the need for a scapegoat, and what you can do about it. You’ll learn to become skillful and wise through gaining insight into the “enemy-making factors” in yourself, develop compassion for these factors in all humans, and create mindful space between your cherished “self” and threatening “others” in your dyadic relationships.

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Polly Young-Eisendrath, PhD, is a Jungian psychoanalyst, a psychologist, and Clinical Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Vermont. She is the founder and director of the Institute for Dialogue Therapy and the author of 16 books that have been translated into 20 languages. In addition to a full speaking schedule, Polly maintains a private practice in central Vermont and is a mindfulness teacher. She has been a practicing Buddhist since 1971. Her newest book is Love Between Equals: Relationship as a Spiritual Path.

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June 22-24, 2018

Trauma + Transcendence Conference: Depth Psychology, Spirituality and the Sacred

Trauma + Transcendence Conference Polly Young-EisendrathPacifica Graduate Institute
801 Ladera Lane,
Santa Barbara, CA 93108

June 22-24, 2018

The Gates of Mercy: Portals of Transcendence According to Jung and Buddhism

This presentation draws principally on two models of substrate consciousness: Jung’s collective unconscious and the Buddhist (Yogacara) alaya-vijnana or store-house consciousness. Looked at from the perspectives of everyday life and psychotherapy, these models of mind are mapping the way to an awareness that is wiser and more transcendent than mundane consciousness. When we collide with loss, trauma, failure, pain, hurt, and some aspects of dreaming and meditating, our sense of a continuous self is disrupted. These disruptions are potential openings to a transcendent reality. I will present and compare these two models of mind and talk about how and why the human mental construct of self creates an illusion of control and how dropping that control is the only true path to grace and healing.

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June 2-8, 2018

Shadow Selves: Becoming Skillful and Wise in Our Response to the Human Need for an Enemy

Mind and Life Summer Research Institute 2018
Garrison Institute
Garrison, NY

It is well known that human beings are both profoundly interdependent and profoundly unconscious — a dangerous mix. In our conscious and unconscious desires to protect ourselves, we “need” an enemy whom to fight against, control, or withdraw from. In my decades-long profession as a Jungian psychoanalyst and a couples therapist, as well as my decades-long practice of Buddhism (especially Zen and Vipassana), I have observed how difficult it is for us to step back from the impulse to blame someone when our hopes and ideals are dashed. In a close relationship or in a community or neighborhood that we care about, we embrace ideals that foster both the disavowal of our own aggressive motives and the projection of these motives into another. Drawing on Carl Jung’s theory of a shadow complex and Melanie Klein’s theory of projective identification, this presentation will ask us to examine the arising of self/other within a dynamic field of ideals and blame. We will also see how to become skillful and wise when (1) we gain insight into the “enemy-making factors” in ourselves, (2) develop compassion for these factors in all humans, and (3) create a mindful space between our cherished “selves” and the threatening “others” as we live together in all our relationships. Drawing especially on couples therapy and other dyadic relationships (e.g. teacher-student), we will discover how to work skillfully with the enemy-making factors in ourselves.

About the Mind & Life Summer Research Institute:

The 2018 Mind & Life Summer Research Institute extends the arc from the 2016 and 2017 programs that addressed themes of context, social connectivity, and intersubjectivity by engaging critical topics relevant to cultural difference and human diversity. The week-long immersive program will examine social and psychological patterns, both implicit and explicit, to discuss how difference is constructed at personal, interpersonal, and socio-structural levels. Scientific, humanistic, and first-person contemplative perspectives will give attention to processes of othering and how we can overcome conflict by embracing difference.

Plenary faculty presentations from neuroscientists and psychologists will describe basic mechanisms of distinguishing self and other as well as cultural and developmental factors providing our sense of security and provoking our common fears. Discussions from the social sciences will explore cultural, historical, and structural factors that complexify conditions for disparity and inequity across social groups and communities, often contributing to conflict and dissonance. Philosophical presentations will discuss worldviews through which the other is interconnected to one’s self, how difference is a source of power, and the process of perspective-taking through dialogue. A training workshop and small group breakout sessions will explore practical applications for reflecting on biases and engaging difference. Through first-person practice, we will query contemplative traditions as a resource for compassion and redressing injustice.

The 2018 Summer Research Institute will be held at the Garrison Institute in Garrison, New York, 50 miles north of New York City in the Hudson River Valley. Please see the Garrison Institute website for more details.

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May 2, 2018

Love and Marriage in the 21st Century

Vermont Humanities Council: First Wednesdays
Brownell Library
6 Lincoln Street
Essex Junction, VT  05452

May 2, 2018  |  7:00 pm

Dr. Polly Young-Eisendrath looks at the transformation of marriage over the past century from a traditional contract between families to one that celebrates idealization in the form of “true love,” and suggests why the latter may be harder to fulfill than many thought.

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April 29, 2018

Falling In Love and Taking It Personally: Couple Relationships in the 21st Century

Center for Psychotherapy & Psychoanalysis of New Jersey
April 29 8:15 am – 3:30 pm
Lenfell Hall, Fairleigh Dickenson University, Madison, NJ

Registration: 8:15am – 8:45 / Program begins: 8:45 -3:30pm

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Intimate and reciprocal love between adults – in marriage and committed partnerships – is in many ways more problematic and unhappy now than anyone thought it would be after decades of struggle for gender equality and sexual freedom. Marriage has moved from being a vow of impersonal loyalty (“in sickness and in health, until death do us part” for the sake of the family and property) to a vow of personal desire (“as long as this meets my needs”). In fact, partners now feel almost obliged to break up if their image and values are no longer reflected in the other person: “How can I be with someone like this?”

Commitments based on desire, equality and reciprocity are destabilizing because they require on-going negotiations of conflicts and needs. We may all feel more secure in a hierarchy in which one or the other person makes the decisions. But we no longer want hierarchy in our personal lives. We want to be equals and to be respected. We want to be witnessed and held in mind, to be found desirable and cared for.

This presentation will introduce you to personal love and its first stage of development when a partner becomes the “intimate enemy” as disillusionment gets trapped in toxic unconscious communication. Effective couple psychotherapy must then address the problem of chronic projective identification and the necessity of creating a differentiated space in which each partner feels confident and free to be respected and autonomous, even in the midst of emotional security. As an intimate enemy becomes an intimate friend, personal love becomes true love.

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In the afternoon, Dr. Young-Eisendrath will turn her attention to Dialogue Therapy, a form of couples therapy developed in the 1990’s with her late husband, Dr. Ed Epstein. Dialogue Therapy is a program of just six therapeutic sessions that extend over a year’s time in which a couple is evaluated and then showed how to relate in conflict without entering into active or passive aggression. Dialogue Therapy addresses more than “communication problems,” however. Combining psychoanalytic methods and theory, with aspects of psychodrama and mindfulness, Dialogue Therapy addresses the fact that, in times of confusion and conflict, partners tend to perceive each other as an “intimate enemy” with the consequence of casting the relationship into a chronic pattern of “victim” and “victimizer” that has to be broken open before communication problems can be solved.

Learning objectives: At the conclusion of the presentation, you will be able to:

  • Define “personal love” and describe how it differs from an attachment bond, romance, and traditional contractual marriage
  • Describe the movement from personal love to true love in which both partners experience themselves as able to witness and to be witnessed, to accept limitations and flaws in self and other, and to remain interested in each other over time
  • Define “projective identification” and apply the definition to helping couples create a “mindful space” for dialogue

Target Audience: Suitable for Psychologists, Social Workers, Licensed Professional Counselors, Psychiatrists, Advanced Practice Nurses, Graduate Students, Marriage and Family Therapists.

Level of Program Sophistication: Intermediate – some prior knowledge is required

Questions?
Contact: Cathy Van Voorhees
Center for Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis of NJ
973-912-4432
cppnj@cppnj.org

March 23-24, 2018

Lecture and Workshop: C.G. Jung Society of Montreal

The John Molson School of Business
Montréal, Canada

Falling In Love and Taking It Personally: Couple Relationships in the 21st Century

Friday, March 23
7:30-10:00 p.m.
The John Molson School of Business
1450 Guy St, Montreal, QC H3H 0A1, Canada
Room MB 3.210

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Members $20
Non-Members $25
Students/Senior Members $15

This presentation will introduce you to personal love and its first stage of development when a partner becomes the “intimate enemy” as disillusionment gets trapped in toxic unconscious communication. Effective couple psychotherapy must then work to create a differentiated space in which each partner feels confident and free to be respected and autonomous, even in the midst of emotional security. As an intimate enemy becomes an intimate friend, personal love becomes true love.

Dialogue Therapy: Helping Couples Move from Disillusionment to Intimacy
A Training Seminar with Polly Young-Eisendrath

Saturday, March 24
10:00 a.m.-4:30 p.m.
The John Molson School of Business
1450 Guy St, Montreal, QC H3H 0A1, Canada
Room MB 3.435

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Members $60
Non-Members $70
Students/Senior Members $40

Order of Psychologists CE credits (additional $20 for lecture credits/$50 for workshop credits)

This seminar will introduce and demonstrate some basic principles of Dialogue Therapy (DT) by showing videotapes of co-therapists working with a couple and presenting the theoretical and clinical ideas that shape DT. Originally developed by Polly Young-Eisendrath and Ed Epstein in 1982, Dialogue Therapy has been practiced, taught, and supervised by Polly since the mid-1980s.

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December 9-10, 2017

Unified Mindfulness Presents:

Dialogue Therapy for Couples: A Model Based on Psychoanalysis and Mindfulness

University of Vermont Medical Center
Davis Auditorium
Burlington, Vermont

Saturday, December 9 and Sunday, December 10, 2017

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Dialogue Therapy UVM Polly Young-EisendrathWe have re-invented marriage and intimate love in the 21st century and this re-invention has affected us in some profound and challenging ways. A long-term relationship that is equal and mutual – non-hierarchical – is a new thing. It opens the door to an array of new kinds of conflicts and power struggles that we take very personally. Marriage is no longer a matter of raising children and conserving resources. Instead of “Till death do us part,” the vow is “I’ll stay as long as it suits me.”

After the romance is over, all couples enter into disillusionment in which they will play out painful emotional dynamics that are unconsciously generated from their original family relationships. The confusion can feel especially hostile in light of seeing an intimate partner as a best friend.

Dialogue Therapy (DT) is a time-limited couples therapy that may be done by co-therapists (two therapists with the couple) or a single therapist. It was designed to help couples who find themselves stuck in repetitive, sometimes troubling or aggressive, difficulties in negotiating conflicts and keeping intimacy alive. It has been updated to meet the special concerns of couples in the 21st century.

Couples therapy is notorious for failing because the members of the couple depend too much on the therapist. They deal with their conflicts only in the presence of the therapist. Dialogue Therapy, even from the first session, requires a couple to speak with each other and develop skills that do not depend on a therapist.

The Workshop

In two six-hour days of training, you will be introduced into the issues and problems of contemporary couples therapy as it deals with the pitfalls of “personal love” that relies on personal feelings and assessment in place of vows and family traditions. Then Polly will move into introducing you to Dialogue Therapy, as a particular model of Short-Term Anxiety-Provoking Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy (STAPP) that can be offered in a co-therapist series of seven meetings or a solo therapist series of thirteen meetings. You will see video from three actual sessions of Dialogue Therapy with a couple: Evaluation, Working with a Conflict, and Empathy Interview (Role Reversal). These sessions are with Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D. and Jean Pieniadz, Ph.D. as the Dialogue Therapists.

If you are a practicing therapist or a graduate student with an interest or a practice in couples therapy, this workshop will add to your skills. If you are interested in learning Dialogue Therapy, this is a required first step. Dr. Young-Eisendrath and Dr. Pieniadz will be offering more advanced training in Dialogue Therapy in the future. This introduction will be required.

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Continuing Education Credits: 12 CEU credits have been granted to Vermont Psychologists. 12 CEU credits pending for Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselors.

OBJECTIVES
1. Describe the basic intent and distinctive features of Dialogue Therapy.

2. Explain the structure of Dialogue Therapy in the co-therapist and solo therapy models.

3. Summarize the concept of projective identification and its application to the idealizing and disillusionment phases of intimate relationships.

4. Assess unconscious entanglements in couples’ communication based on projective identification.

5. Employ psychodynamic theory to interpret unconscious affective communication in the couple.

6. Apply techniques drawn from psychodrama, such as doubling and role reversal, to effectively facilitate the development of communication skills and empathy in couples.

7. Integrate mindfulness practices into couple therapy that enhance concentration, equanimity, and clarity to reduce emotional reactivity and negative repetitions.

8. Establish a shared understanding of negative repetitive patterns within the couple through appropriate  evaluation methods.

9. Recognize contraindications for Dialogue Therapy.

10. Explain and encourage four skills of dialogue.

11. Recognize active and passive expressions of aggression in couples’ communication as an instinctual response to threat  that erodes trust.

12. Teach couples to apply skills of dialogue to effectively communicate anger without attack or withdrawal.

13. Articulate psychoanalytic research on relational concepts such as projective identification, idealization, separation anxiety and love in its application to couples therapy.

CONFERENCE SCHEDULE
Day 1
8:30 Registration
9:00 Welcome & Orientation to the Course
9:15 – 10:00 Introduction: Challenges of Psychotherapy with Couples
10:00 – 11:00 Demonstration and Teaching of the Evaluation Session for Dialogue Therapy
11:00 – 11:15 Break
11:15 – 12:30 Dialogue Therapy Evaluation Techniques I
12:30 – 1:30 Lunch
1:30 – 3:30 Dialogue Therapy Evaluation Techniques II
3:30 – 3:45 Break
3:45 – 5:00 Questions and Discussion

Day 2
9:00 – 10:00 Demonstration and Teaching of the First Session
of Dialogue Therapy: Working on a Conflict
10:00 – 11:00 Techniques of Working on a Conflict I
11:00 – 11:15 Break
11:15 – 12:30 Techniques of Working on a Conflict II
12:30 – 1:30 Lunch
1:30 – 2:45 Introduction to Mindfulness in Dialogue Therapy
2:45 – 3:00 Break
3:00 – 4:00 Demonstration and Teaching of Building Empathy through Role Reversal
4:00 – 5:00 Transformation of Personal Love into True Love: Challenges of Falling in Love and Taking It Personally

*Continental breakfast provided each morning. Meals otherwise not provided. Harvest Café is located nearby (McClure Bldg, Level 1).

CONFERENCE REGISTRATION: REGISTRATION BEGINS OCTOBER 13
Conference registration, payment (including a pay-by-check option), afternoon discussion group selection and parking information are available online at: www.UnifiedMindfulness.com/DTT

Fee schedule for the full two day program:
Registration (by Dec.1): $300 (online discount) – $325 (check)
Registration (after Dec. 1): $350
Cancellation Policy: No refunds after December 1, 2017

ABOUT UNIFIED MINDFULNESS:
Unified Mindfulness (UM/UM-HUB) is an educational organization created to offer professional support for the practice and delivery of mindfulness training. Partnering with professionals in mental health, education, human services, and business, Unified Mindfulness offers programs and courses that teach and train those who ameliorate human suffering and adversity, by increasing their knowledge and skills to improve individual functioning, enhance relational skills, and increase psychological and physical well-being in the populations they serve. For more information about our programs visit www.UnifiedMindfulness.com

 

November 10-11, 2017

Lecture: “Gathering Up Our Brokenness” and Workshop: “Love is a Spiritual Path: Relationship as Psycho-Spiritual Development”

Montana Friends of Jung
The Element Hotel
Bozeman, Montana

Friday, November 10 and Saturday, November 11, 2017
The Element Hotel, Bozeman

Polly Young-Eisendrath at the Montana Friends of Jung“Gathering Up Our Brokenness”
Friday Night Lecture, 7:00 – 8:30 p.m.

Often, we hear about grieving our mistakes, failures, losses, and imperfections, but rarely do we learn how to mine them for their richness. Because human beings are naturally broken — with personalities that are largely unconscious, reactive, and hard to manage — we have countless opportunities in our relationships and work to see our selves in the cracks of the mirror. This workshop draws on Carl Jung’s psychology of individuation and the Buddha’s teachings on awakening to offer a new vision of imperfection with its inherent openings to compassion and love.

“Love is a Spiritual Path: Relationship as Psycho-Spiritual Development”
Saturday Workshop, 9:00 a.m. – 4:30 p.m.

This workshop explores the nature of “true love” or “personal love,” defined as mutual love between equals, requiring insight, mindfulness, equanimity, emotional maturity, open communication and honesty. True love, in this sense, is different from romance and from biological attachment bonds. Polly guides participants toward understanding how and why well-meaning people get caught up in harmful emotional patterns if they do not understand their inner lives as individuals. The workshop shows people how to “mind the space” between them with respect and compassion.

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May 22, 2017

Perspectives at End-of-Life: Suffering, Consciousness & the Power of a Patient’s Narrative

Lake Morey Resort & Conference Center
1 Club House Rd
Fairlee, Vermont 05045

Monday, May 22, 2017
7:30 a.m. – 4:00 p.m.
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5.5 Contact Hours Will Be Awarded for This Program

Polly Young-Eisendrath Vermont Ethics NetworkThe Vermont Ethics Network Presents: Perspectives at End-of-Life: Suffering, Consciousness & the Power of a Patient’s Narrative. The goal of this conference is to explore the importance of understanding the patient’s story and integrating different faith beliefs and traditions into the care needs of seriously ill and dying patients.

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