Learn how to be in contact with your own experience, even when you are emotionally agitated, and discover how and why you misperceive your partner and how to remain in contact with him or her, even in conflict.
Being able to hold up a mirror in which your beloved feels “known and seen” requires equanimity as well as compassion for your own complexities and contradictions. You’ll learn what it means to retain a “mindful space” for all of your differences and desires, in which you and your partner can always renew your connection. Love, by its nature, requires two ingredients: knowing your beloved well and accepting your beloved deeply. Today’s relationships, with their regular power struggles, need for constant negotiation and their idealized desires for “chemistry,” create expectable and problematic “enemy-making factors” between partners. Join Polly this weekend to learn how love in the 21st century cannot be unlocked through the old archetypes, the new neuroscience, or attachment theories. Instead, the challenge of today’s love demands psychological and spiritual development in both partners, no matter your family of origin or your attachment style.