Below are some of the books written by Polly Young-Eisendrath:

Women and Desire: Beyond Wanting to Be Wanted

women-and-desire-230x327In Women and Desire: Beyond Wanting to Be Wanted, Polly Young-Eisendrath,Ph.D. challenges widely-held beliefs about female power and desire to show that women are trapped in a double bind. Encouraged to be Objects of Desire, they can take the role of “muse” – devoting themselves to being desirable, or they can claim their desires directly and be labeled as the “bitch/nag.” The muse can have no desires of her own and the bitch feels ashamed of herself and her desires. As a result, women young and old, are confused about autonomy — the skill and responsibility for making choices and decisions as an adult.


You’re Not What I Expected: Love after the Romance Has Ended

your-not-what-i-expectedThe acclaimed classic about how to achieve a successful relationship between a man and a woman–now back in paperback. “An impressive account of how ‘dialogue therapy’ helps couples achieve new intimacy… Young-Eisendrath sees the process as a transformation from disillusionment into trust. Scholarly and thoughtful yet totally accessible and quite practical”. – Kirkus Reviews. 416 pp.


The Resilient Spirit: Transforming Suffering into Insight and Renewal

the-resilient-spirit“This is a totally necessary book. Those who know or have known suffering of any substantial sort, as well as the therapists who stand by to help them, may well find this book to be the major gift of a lifetime. In a rolling prose that never clouds, never gets lost in the complexity of its topic, the author marries the best of the West’s psychological wisdom – as expressed by Carl Jung – to the best of the East’s spiritual wisdom – as expressed by the Buddha. This two-fold perspective provides help to those in pain that neither discipline could have delivered alone. Add to this the author’s personal experience of suffering, her evident scholarship, and her extensive experience as a psychoanalyst, and it becomes clear why this book is as noteworthy as it is. As one who knew his own years of pain and fear of capsizing, and who has subsequently been guide to many in their time of suffering, I have greeted and from my heart blessed this book with significantly more than ordinary enthusiasm.” – George Fowler, author of Dance of a Fallen Monk.