| Makeover Tip |
Key Points |
Relevant Chapter |
| Your Kid is Not King |
- It is as important to recognize, respect, and respond to the needs of others as it is to have one's own needs met.
- Connection is the foundation of success and happiness.
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Chapter 9: The Truth About Happiness |
| Real Life is Disappointing |
- The world is full of limitations.
- The ability to handle disappointment is key to confidence, self-governance, and optimism.
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Chapter 3: The Importance of Adversity |
| Autonomy is the Goal |
- Self-esteem/self-governance comes from knowing our strengths and weaknesses by receiving feedback from the things we do.
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Chapter 5: Autonomy and Emotional Maturity |
| Don't Feed Kids Junk Praise |
- Excessive praise for ordinary activities is addictive.
- Excessive praise contradicts the inner wisdom that enables skillful decision-making.
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Chapter 6: The Value of Being Ordinary |
| Resilience Comes From Being Flexible |
- Allowing children to make mistakes, encounter failure, and know limitations (of self and others) teaches flexibility in the face of life's challenges.
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Chapter 1: The Trouble with Being Special |
| Developing Talent and Creativity Requires Patience |
- Skills and abilities develop over time.
- Developing them to the level of true creative expression takes diligence and patience.
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Chapter 2: The Roots of the Problem |
| Kindness and Generosity Bring the Greatest Happiness |
- Helping others is a source of deep satisfaction and happiness.
- Teach caring and compassion toward others as the norm.
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Chapter 7: Religion and Reverence |
| Good Character Wins |
- Good character requires good manners, good conscience, and virtue, all of which are the foundation for success.
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Chapter 4: The Necessity of Conscience and Virtue |
| Your Relationships Set the Example |
- Show interest in, and respect and kindness for, your own parents, your partner, and elders.
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Chapter 8: Love and its Near Enemy |
| Belonging Means Contributing |
- Belonging to a family means more than being born into it; teach kids to become a member by contributing.
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Chapter 9: The Truth About Happiness |