Belonging to a group — whether a family, a community, a sports team, or a company — means being a contributing member of that group. When members contribute to the best of their ability, groups run smoothly and meet their objectives. A group member who fails to contribute not only loses the opportunity to engage positively with others, but also places an additional burden on other members and may even jeopardize the progress or objectives of the group.
To help children recognize that being a member of a family, like any group, requires commitment and participation. Being part of a family means enjoying the love and support of other family members, but it also means taking on age-appropriate responsibilities that ensure that everyone's needs are met.
Young children are often eager to help out at home. Take advantage of this by assigning them age-appropriate tasks and expressing appreciation for their efforts when the tasks are satisfactorily completed.
- Have regular family meetings to discuss and outline tasks and responsibilities and assign family members, or allow them to volunteer for, specific tasks. Make time during the meeting for members to acknowledge each other's contribution and express gratitude for support or to voice concern and disappointment when tasks are left undone or requests for help are unmet.
- Since we always depend on others, we need to sustain our connection to them. Create a home environment that:
- Encourages family members to relate to each other in a caring and kind manner.
- Teaches children to be responsible for themselves and accountable for their actions.